Living in a place that you hate and being happy.

Living in a place that you hate and being happy. That's a tough thing to do but it's possible.  I currently live in the oh so wonderful state of Connecticut.  As you can tell I'm being sarcastic. I do not think this place is wonderful or exciting to live in.  People are rude as rude can get. They drive like they are in The Fast and The Furious just to get to a red light that they will honk their horn at you before it even turns green, turn signals and speed limits do not exist. The list goes on and on when it comes to the driving here. Everything is crazy expensive and people just seem out right miserable.  Of course this does not go for everyone living in Connecticut it's just what I have observed after living here for almost 2 years.

Just recently we have started going to church as a family and I absolutely love it! I have been looking for a good church since we have moved here and I finally found it! Something was said in one of the sermons a couple weeks ago that really hit home for me. It's what really inspired this post and my willingness to change things. If you are not happy about something change it if you can. You have the power to change it so you are happy. It doesn't even have to be extreme, all the little things help but if you don't change it you're not going to be happy.  I feel like I need to write that on a sticky note and put it up all over the house so I will see it every day.

Coming to the realization that the reason I'm miserable is MY fault and NOT the place I live was hard. I can't just put the blame on the fact that it because we live in Connecticut its not the states fault as much as I would like to put all the blame on it. Yes it's frustrating and stressful but there really is a light at the end of the tunnel you just need to take the first step.

GET OUT! and when I say get out I mean get out of your house and meet people!! Make friends I'm not saying you have to like every single person you meet or be friends with everyone but you will know good friends when you meet them. I'm excited to say that I have made a couple good friends since moving here it just took over a year to do it. We may not get to get together all the time but having someone to talk to, go have coffee with or play dates with is wonderful.  I'm trying my hardest to get out and do more with the kids and it will be getting easier as the weather gets better.

STEP OUT of your comfort zone. We joined the YMCA and I absolutely love it. I take a Zumba class that I have fallen in love with in fact I'm pretty addicted to it.  That was a big step for me, I am very self conscious and going to a class full of strangers when you barely have any coordination is a bit terrifying but you never know if you will love it or hate till you try it. But getting fit has made me so happy and I'm so proud of how well I'm doing but I go over that in a different post. I have also made some pretty good friends there too!

GET OVER IT and STOP making excuses! As much as I hate to admit it, I make a lot of excuses and I hate it. And then I ask why on earth did I just do that I'm going to be miserable because I didn't go out and do something. I need to get over the fact that things are crazy expensive here because in reality there is so much to do that doesn't cost money.  We just need to get out and do it. Like going to parks, having play dates and walking the mall.  It is a little difficult being a one car family but we can make it work. That is my goal, to get out more with the kids and stop making excuses just because my kids are a little on the hyper side (they are 3 and 1) it goes with their age and people will get over it. We can do this and we will.

So in the end you can truly be happy in a place that you hate because YOU are the one that has the control over it. You obviously don't have to do what I did/do because we are all different people, I just thought I would share. This is my learning experience and I'm sure I'll have many more.

God Bless